5 Things You Might Not Know About Me

  1. I have anxiety. I am in no way ashamed of it either. Anxiety is common in a lot of humans today, almost 40 million adults in the U.S. have this “disorder”. My anxiety comes out in different ways, in different situations. I get quiet, don’t speak for a while, sometimes its a day of very little talking. I sort through my thoughts, feelings, and emotions in the silence. I’m not a reactive person unless I’m put in a situation that needs reaction. So the silence is my friend when I have anxiety. The gym has been a big saving grace as well. Mei Fitness is where I go when I need to release my stresses, with the perfect environment to do so!
  2. I am a major fan of the water! This one is a bit more light, the rain, the ocean, any form of water is a place of peace for me. Thunder storms are my absolute favorites at anytime of day or night. I tend to sleep better in them. The water brings me a sense of calm which, if you follow the horoscope signs (don’t judge), I am a Pisces/ Aries so it makes sense! And side note, I do like the horoscope crap even though its pretty much a load of bull….. (have your own opinions on this!)
  3. My favorite movies are romanic comedies…. Typical female right? But again I am not ashamed! Friends with Benefits, The Other Woman, and The Proposal are my top three favorites and the best movies of time! If you don’t agree with me, I respect your poor choice in movies! (Kidding, but really though…) Also, recently I’ve become a fan of the bachelorette, this I am ashamed of, but it’s quite entertaining to me because the drama people allow into their lives and it’s occasionally fun to make fun of. (haha) Its becoming a guilty pleasure….oops.
  4. I have a BIG hate for social media… Shocker, maybe. However, I have always disliked it. Its not because I don’t think its’ a great tool. I do! What I dislike about it, is the insecurity and comparisons that come along with all of it. There can be a lot of secrets kept in the social media that we have today and ways to hide anything. However, I do believe that truth always comes out in one way or another, therefore, making this accusation isn’t something I tend to have fear or anxiety with in relationships. With it there can be drama, which is something I absolutely despise. I’m not a drama gal but if you have drama, I’ll listen and give you my honest advice but then I’m out of it. I have a way of seeing both sides of a situation wether I have met the other person involved or not, call it a curse but I’ve found to be quite useful. Social media is also a façade of actual real life. There is perfect in most the pictures i see which can in turn makes people think they have the perfect life. It’s a show boat for the life people don’t actually live. (However, there are people out there that have amazing accounts and great lives, we just don’t show the hard parts of our struggles.)
  5. I learn in a different way than other people. A class room is not my place of learning at all. I learn from real life experiences and short bursts of teaching. A class room is very frustrating to me because I can never follow the teacher if the material we are learning about isn’t something I can relate to the real world. Example: Math. It is an ABSOLUTE foreign language to me in the classroom however, if I have time to process, “Why do I need this, what am I looking for, and how is this going to give me the outcome I need in this real life situation?” then I am able to do basic math easily and figure out the formula I need in my head. But in the classroom when the professor teaches something new it all gets lost on me. I have a different way of processing the things I learn and if something is explained to me while I am working on a project, and understand where information came from and how it is needed, I can pick something up pretty quick. I just have to have all the facts of how it can be used and take a step back to think through it.

I hope y’all enjoyed this fun little piece of things you might not know about me. This was a fun one for me to do! I got the idea because my followers on instagram don’t truly see parts of me because i’m behind a screen so this was the perfect opportunity to share a few things you’d probably never guess about a_jacs.

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5 Summer Shredding Tips!

We all want that summer bod. Summer time is for the pool, the beach, the lake and so forth! So naturally we want to feel confident and happy in a bathing suit!

While summer shredding is not on my plate, I am doing something a bit unorthodox. My plan this summer is to bulk. I’m doing this because I want to gain as much muscle as possible to shred when school starts back up. I’m doing this because I would really like to compete in a show this coming winter. However, I haven’t worked out all the logistics of it but that doesn’t change my plans for this summer.

For those wanting to shed some and get that bikini bod in shape, here are 5 tips I recommend.

  1. Get in the gym as much as possible, two times a day even. granted we don’t all have time for that…. MAKE TIME.
  2. Mixing cardio in with lifting. Fasted cardio in the am, so your metabolism speeds up through the day and lifting in the evening. Or both at one time. Also work those abs, use weights to do so. This will strain them and push you harder!
  3. Fewer calories but better nutritional value! Substitute that Twinki for nuts and a banana! Make this long lasting. Eat frequently yet, each smaller portions. PROTEIN PROTEIN PROTEIN!!!! This will fill you up, lower your hunger and speed your metabolism some. Keep a record of what you’re eating. Trust me, it keeps ya accountable…
  4. Get your rest! Your body needs time to recover and during the sleep time your body has time to rest.
  5. DO NOT keep track of your weight in numbers. My recommendation? Get rid of that scale you step on every morning and use that handy dandy little phone of yours to take a picture and keep track by how you feel from the beginning to the end. Know your body and recognize the changes. Use anything other than a scale. Weight in numbers isn’t the tell all.

I am not a nutritionalist nor am I a pro at these things but these are things that I do know and have done me wonders in the past!

Enjoy these tips! Enjoy the summer! Enjoy this life!

Houston bound

This will be a quick blog only because there’s not much on this topic. Considering I haven’t even gotten to Houston yet or even on the pane. So we’ll just make it short and sweet!

I got my workout in this morning with a bit of Bis and Tris at Mei Fitness. Great thing about the time I went is that there was barely anyone there! However, with the time I had, it was more of a burn out than anything because I was trying to get in and out. But made for a goodie workout.

Let’s jump into my adventure though, essentially, I’m heading to Houston for a training certification with Total Fit. Its a whole wellness approach meaning connecting the body, mind, and spirit as one in fitness. It’ll definitely be an interesting experience! There are two reasons why I’m excited. One, I’m excited because it’s in Houston, one of my top choices in geographic areas to live one day. Two, because this new experience will expand my knowledge in the fitness realm. I’ve always had a hard time in school. Simply because I don’t learn in that type of setting. However, I’m excited because this will be hands on and actually working more so than sitting back and listening.

I’ve always enjoyed working more than school and with this I’ll say that last year while in school I also worked about 40 hours per week. I learned much at this job and did my job pretty well, (don’t wanna hype myself up too much) but I always enjoyed interacting with humans and having set criteria on the job. Dont get me wrong, School is very important and I appreciate the opportunity to be able to go! But as my father pointed out, I enjoyed working much more.

The Houston trip will be a great experience with learning and experiencing new techniques. I will be broadening my horizons and this will potentially help with my future plans. The nerves though are kicking in big time. I will be in a new setting with several different humans that I am not familiar with. The bright side to that though is that I will make new connections and friends.

I’m sitting at the airport 2 hours early, working on this specific blog. Thank goodness for having a drink while writing it! And DO NOT get me wrong, I’m not much for a day drinker, but when you get here 2 hours early and you have nothing better to do but drink and type out a blog you’re gonna just do it, especially when you’ve been stressing about the trip the last 36 hours….

I’m gonna wrap this blog up and try and get some other stuff done before my flight but I just wanted to fill y’all in on where ill be over the next few days. I plan on writing about the experience I have as I’m there in my free time. But I’m not sure how well that’ll go if I’m trying to sight see as well. It’s an adventure so who the heck knows what I”ll be doing!

Usual Workout Week

Hey guys! Today I want to chat about my workout splits, week to week. Before I do however, I need to mention that this is what works for me. This might not actually be the best for you and your body however this is what I do and what benefits my body the best. Plus you could always give it a try, and see how it works for you.

I used to have a very unorganized split week and would kinda just go into the gym thinking… “I don’t know what i’m gonna do today”. I mean that was just chaos! I was tired of not knowing what I wanted to do for the day or what my schedule is. So I created one that incorporated 6-7 days each week, alternating between lower body and upper body. If one day I can not make it to the  gym I use that as my rest day, and everything else will move to the next day scheduled. Are there weeks when I can’t make it every day? Yes. However, it all depends on the week and realistically its not always possible to get into the gym that much due to my schedule with school and other responsibilities.

So let’s jump into this.

Monday- ALWAYS leg day! We all know I love my leg workouts. Monday is my heavy day. I’ll up my weight more than normal, while doing lower reps of 6-8.

Tuesday- Shoulders! I go hard on them and really tear down the muscles. I do a mix of light weight high reps vs heavy weight low reps.

Wednesday- Legs! I’ll do light weight high reps.

Thursday- Back day! I’ll do the same that I do for shoulders, a mix of light weight high reps and heavy weight low reps.

Friday- Final leg day! Mix high weight low reps with low weight high reps.

Saturday- Biceps, triceps & chest! I tend to up my weight every week just a little bit.

Sunday- This is generally my rest day, however if I miss a day during the week this will be the make up day.

You might be thinking that training lower body 3 times a week is crazy, however I have to put in a lot more work to reach my goals. I started training legs that amount a few months back when I could see the results in my upper body but not in my lower body. So, I decided to add another lower body day to my week. I had only been training legs 2 times per week because  I’ve always been advised to “do it this way”, however the results I’ve gotten have proven to me that this training schedule works best for my body.

It’s always good to test out safely what works best for your body keeping in mind that if you are going to be intensifying your workouts, that also keeping up with your protein intake and overall nutrition is very important. My ability to get into the gym also comes from Mei Fitness being a 24 hour fitness center. So, there is no excuses in not being able to go in and get your grind on at any time in the 24 hours we have in a day!

Sooo, GET TO GRINDING YALL!

DRIVE FEAR INTO THE GROUND

Fear and anxiety are inevitable. How you process those feelings makes all the difference. Even I struggle with my own anxieties and fears. Fear is your body and mind trying to protect you from something that can be extremely harmful. However, sometimes the fear or anxiety is geared towards something that could be really good for you. It has a way of shutting yourself down to where your fears control what you know can be healthy and create a better out come of life for you but causes you to steer clear from those things.

I know, in my case, I definitely have some big fears and anxieties. Some of which are very logical and fair based off of experience but other fears are not that way. For instance, the gym. I was terrified when I first walked into a gym. I would get anxiety walking in without knowing anyone and afraid of looking weak or too “not in shape”. I had seen people walking in who were in better shape that I wished I could be in! I mean come on…. how can I, little old A_Jacs, walk in to a place busting with super fit people when I didn’t have a clue how to do most of anything?! That was my anxiety and fear speaking for me.

I used to get knots in my stomach driving to the gym because of the fear that built my anxiety up through the roof into the sky. I hate it because fitness has been one of my passions for some time now. But none the less, I still had that same feeling for almost a year. Let me just say, I might have been “in shape”, however, I didn’t feel that way about myself. Everyone fears something without meaning to. But if it’s not fear, the anxiety can still arise.

Walking into a gym can be stressful. “What will people think of me?”, “Will they judge me for not being in the best of shape?”, or my favorite, “Oh, I’m not going there because there are only little barbies and ken dolls there.”

Alright let me start by saying, your fears could very well be others fears in the gym. Majority people at the gym are worrying about what you think of them or judging them! Well, and if its not that then they are solely focused on their workout! They could care less what you wear, how “in shape” you are and what workouts you are doing! (I’m speaking for me, but Im also speaking for many gym folk I know who are kind and mind their own business.) The answer to the second question one might think, NO ONE CARES! We alllllll started somewhere! No one walks into the gym for the first time chiseled out of their mind unless they had worked out at home or something rather. Either way thats great for them but I know I sure as heck didn’t! Finally…. Here we go… If I ever get called a barbie to my face, I would probably look at them and ask if they were insane. Yes, it may be a complement but to hear “perfect” or “barbie” its like throwing a brick at my face! Not everyone wants to hear that they are perfect. I hear that and my first initial thought is no, no, no, you got that all wrong honey because I’m not. NO ONE is perfect!!!! If you can say that you are, well, God sure as heck did a wonderful thing for you. But in reality we all have flaws or things we wish we could change. It’s human nature. Even though I could go on a whole other rant about this, I’ll spare you all that word blurb for another day.

However, I will say this, insecurities drive fear, which in turn, drives anxiety. Walking into a gym can be terrifying, I felt that. But what if you have the chance to make yourself into who you would like to wake up in the morning one day to be? All I’m saying is this, if there is anxiety and fear in your heart for something that could potentially change your life, wouldn’t it be better to stand up and conquer those feelings and be proud to know you could? If I hadn’t, I never would have come to find Mei Fitness, a home, and another family. I wouldn’t be sitting here typing this post or feel as confident in who I am if I hadn’t told my fears to screw off.

I’ll end with this, if your dealing with those types of fears and anxieties walking into a gym, check out Mei Fitness. I pinky promise you, no one in there will look at you like you don’t belong or make you feel unwelcome. All my time there, I have seen so many people who I now respect and have great appreciation for from watching and talking to them. I have never felt better in a fitness center and I would never want anyone to walk in feeling less than what they truly are.

Take that leap and conquer those fears. You never know what could happen for you if you opened the closed door to your fears. There is a whole world out there. Don’t let your anxiety rule over your life.

 

P.S. all of this is easier said than done. I would know, but as you keep up with what you are doing it becomes something much simpler than fear.

 

 

How Deep Does Your Ocean Go?

So guys, this post is very personal to me. Very raw. I have a lot of emotions about this and it’s something that several men and women deal with every day. I think this post is something I feel I need to write because it weighs on my heart and ties into my fitness journey a bit.

This post can also tie to men as well but I will speak to the ladies out there because that is the only perspective I know.

Ladies, have you ever felt remotely disappointed in someone coming to you and telling you how hot you are or how perfect you are because it seems that that person only sees your skin? I mean let’s be honest, everyone see’s the skin first and decides if that person is attractive to them. That’s a natural human reaction. However, when someone walks up to you and says “Wow, your body is amazing, you’re so hot.” another natural reaction, is a fleeting moment of pride. But for me it turns into sadness. This is because I want to be seen for my heart. I have a big heart that has been let down more times than I can count. I am careful about who I give my heart to in friendships, significant others, and anyone who walks into my life.

I want to be seen for my heart because looks go away. Beauty and fitness levels go down. However, the heart and soul of a person is a beautiful mess that sticks to someone with deeper levels than the skin. The ocean is a good metaphor in this situation. The ocean is deep, with many levels. Creatures live in the different depths of the ocean. This is similar to the human heart and soul. Creatures live in each level of that heart and soul. Although, to see those parts of a person is like pealing back an onion, you have to get through the pain of that stinging in your eyes to be able to cook it into the meal you are making.

The disappointment I feel when men come to me to say such things might be dramatic for some people to hear me speak in this way. But I can tell you it has brought me down in several situations. Part of this is because I have a deep respect for myself and for others. I have worked for every gain in my muscles and I do not ever take that lightly. I can be hard on myself and criticize everything about my body. Which I have found to be very destructive to myself. It can be difficult to hear a man say how hot you are and how much they want to see you body when you know that is not your top asset. You wish the thing they were seeing was the ocean inside of you. And being asked to see your body is a level of disrespect and disregard to how that woman might react to that request.

The amount of pressure in our generation and society tears us as humans apart in several ways. In a relationship, women throw everything at a man who simply doesn’t appreciate the woman in the way they had been created to be appreciated. Now men this goes for you all as well. Men can be seen for their bodies and not their heart as they wish it could be. It’s an all around the world problem. We are all visual creatures. However, the normality of asking to see something so private when you have very little information of people asking, is unfathomable. I think its hard now a days because trust is hard to come by.

In many ways this connects to my fitness journey/love. One reason being that Mei Fitness has dwindled several anxious thoughts while I’m there. The focus I speak about while in the southport location of Mei is very important to me. Those day
s when I’m thrown off guard by a comment of some sorts I am able to go in and zone out the world around me and lift the weights while music blasting. I can cut out the negative thoughts that had clouded my mind and blow into my workout without being distracted. The negative thoughts drip away in the sweat that comes off my brow with each weight I lift. It’s a relief of all things, never a chore.

Ladies you were never made to “fall in line”. You are precious and worth more than life. I tell you my struggles because it’s something I’ve had to deal with and know there are several more out there that might feel the same. I am deeper than skin and I have an ocean inside of me that I know will be seen by someone special.

 

 

YOGA = FRESH START

Flexibility. One of my worst and weakest parts of being in the gym…. However, I’ve been working on changing that. There are several positives for flexibility and stretching in general. Although for me, yoga did the trick.

I love yoga. Its relaxing and surprisingly challenging. I went through a really rough time a while back with a
bunch of personal life problems and started doing yoga. I had worn myself down from being in the gym so much, my immune system was so low to the point where I was sick for about a month with some good days. So this is when I got into yoga. I went to a small juice/yoga shop in Greenwood Indiana where I met an amazing lady who became a confidant and friend. She had told me yoga might be something I should look into, with everything going on and my immune system being so low. At first I hated the idea because I could get my stress out at the gym and I didn’t wanna lose anything that I had gained. Well, my better judgement told me I needed to slow down or else I’d be doing more damage to myself than good if I had kept up the rate I had been going.

I stopped going to the gym for a while and started doing some yoga. The first time I walked out of that studio, I had felt like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders and for once in a while I had been relaxed. I Kept going for a while and learned some new moves. I gained more flexibility and felt better than ever. Once I got back into the gym my body had had enough time to heal and rejuvenate. My body was able to withstand more physical stress and lift heavier weights. My core had gotten much stronger as well! Let me tell y’all, yoga really did the trick.

Now that I’m back in my home gym at Mei Fitness on southport I don’t have as much time for yoga in the studio with an instructor. Thankfully though, this fitness center has a beautiful studio room where I can still practice my moves and find peace in yoga.

I can go long periods with no stretching which I figure, isn’t the best of habits. I’ve committed myself to practice in Mei’s yoga studio each week, at least 3 times along with my workouts. I want to gain more flexibility in my fitness journey. For one I will gain more strength along with less possibility for an injury. My mental and physical performance will improve by miles.

I challenge anyone who has not tried yoga to do so! you won’t regret it at all. I know if I hadn’t tried yoga in the time that I needed it I would be in a different place. I probably wouldn’t have found my motivation or drive to get after my dreams. I am sure I wouldn’t have been able to get back on the horse and ride harder than before. I’d beaten the hell out of that horse and was exhausted. Yoga saved me. To be honest I could be more proud of where I have come. I’ve driven hard and become stronger. Not only physically but mentally as well. I know what I want and I know I’ll get there.