Gym Bag Necessities

Easter weekend my gym bag got stollen, which was very upsetting due to the stupid (very stupid) emotional attachment I had to that bag. Now I say it’s stupid because it’s hard to love something that doesn’t love you back. However, I am that person who carries my gym bag all around the gym with me. It’s sort of a comfort thing or security blanket, I suppose. At Mei Fitness though, it’s a normal thing. Where as other gyms it can seem weird to carry my bag around with me because other gyms generally don’t. Well, I’ve never been a trend follower. In this bag I had a few things of importance and expense but the thing about it is, it’s all replaceable and I hope whoever took it finds better use for it than I did. (or just makes the money they need from it.) Material things don’t matter, it’s the hearts of those around you and the happy times with the people who truly love you and you love back.

However, I thought it’d be a great idea to share with y’all what I will be putting in my new bag as I had in my last one.

  1. First things first, a spring snap link for my keys and gym tag!
  2. Beats Solo Wireless Headphones (music is life, but I’ll have to save up for this investment)
  3. Resistance bands (Buffbunny collection coming in May!!!!!!!! EXCITEMENT!)
  4. Mini deodorant (Because sometimes you forget to put it on at home, lets be honest)
  5. Small makeup bag for the little things I carry in my bag
  6. Hair tie (duh, because my dumb butt forgets it every now and then)
  7. Tampons… (sorry men, its nature)
  8. Squat Belt! (Ordered mine from amazon in a size S)
  9. Water bottle. (I generally have one bottle dedicated to water)
  10. An extra set of regular ear buds just in case
  11. Lotion (because flaky legs aren’t cute)

I feel like I’m missing a few things but this is the gist of it all. I never really carry makeup or hair stuff in my bag because I never have felt the need too. It’s the gym, who cares? I also rarely put supplements in my bag, they take up A LOT of space and if those got taken I wouldn’t be too fond of it. Things are all replaceable. memories stay with you even if something is gone.

 

DRIVE FEAR INTO THE GROUND

Fear and anxiety are inevitable. How you process those feelings makes all the difference. Even I struggle with my own anxieties and fears. Fear is your body and mind trying to protect you from something that can be extremely harmful. However, sometimes the fear or anxiety is geared towards something that could be really good for you. It has a way of shutting yourself down to where your fears control what you know can be healthy and create a better out come of life for you but causes you to steer clear from those things.

I know, in my case, I definitely have some big fears and anxieties. Some of which are very logical and fair based off of experience but other fears are not that way. For instance, the gym. I was terrified when I first walked into a gym. I would get anxiety walking in without knowing anyone and afraid of looking weak or too “not in shape”. I had seen people walking in who were in better shape that I wished I could be in! I mean come on…. how can I, little old A_Jacs, walk in to a place busting with super fit people when I didn’t have a clue how to do most of anything?! That was my anxiety and fear speaking for me.

I used to get knots in my stomach driving to the gym because of the fear that built my anxiety up through the roof into the sky. I hate it because fitness has been one of my passions for some time now. But none the less, I still had that same feeling for almost a year. Let me just say, I might have been “in shape”, however, I didn’t feel that way about myself. Everyone fears something without meaning to. But if it’s not fear, the anxiety can still arise.

Walking into a gym can be stressful. “What will people think of me?”, “Will they judge me for not being in the best of shape?”, or my favorite, “Oh, I’m not going there because there are only little barbies and ken dolls there.”

Alright let me start by saying, your fears could very well be others fears in the gym. Majority people at the gym are worrying about what you think of them or judging them! Well, and if its not that then they are solely focused on their workout! They could care less what you wear, how “in shape” you are and what workouts you are doing! (I’m speaking for me, but Im also speaking for many gym folk I know who are kind and mind their own business.) The answer to the second question one might think, NO ONE CARES! We alllllll started somewhere! No one walks into the gym for the first time chiseled out of their mind unless they had worked out at home or something rather. Either way thats great for them but I know I sure as heck didn’t! Finally…. Here we go… If I ever get called a barbie to my face, I would probably look at them and ask if they were insane. Yes, it may be a complement but to hear “perfect” or “barbie” its like throwing a brick at my face! Not everyone wants to hear that they are perfect. I hear that and my first initial thought is no, no, no, you got that all wrong honey because I’m not. NO ONE is perfect!!!! If you can say that you are, well, God sure as heck did a wonderful thing for you. But in reality we all have flaws or things we wish we could change. It’s human nature. Even though I could go on a whole other rant about this, I’ll spare you all that word blurb for another day.

However, I will say this, insecurities drive fear, which in turn, drives anxiety. Walking into a gym can be terrifying, I felt that. But what if you have the chance to make yourself into who you would like to wake up in the morning one day to be? All I’m saying is this, if there is anxiety and fear in your heart for something that could potentially change your life, wouldn’t it be better to stand up and conquer those feelings and be proud to know you could? If I hadn’t, I never would have come to find Mei Fitness, a home, and another family. I wouldn’t be sitting here typing this post or feel as confident in who I am if I hadn’t told my fears to screw off.

I’ll end with this, if your dealing with those types of fears and anxieties walking into a gym, check out Mei Fitness. I pinky promise you, no one in there will look at you like you don’t belong or make you feel unwelcome. All my time there, I have seen so many people who I now respect and have great appreciation for from watching and talking to them. I have never felt better in a fitness center and I would never want anyone to walk in feeling less than what they truly are.

Take that leap and conquer those fears. You never know what could happen for you if you opened the closed door to your fears. There is a whole world out there. Don’t let your anxiety rule over your life.

 

P.S. all of this is easier said than done. I would know, but as you keep up with what you are doing it becomes something much simpler than fear.

 

 

How Deep Does Your Ocean Go?

So guys, this post is very personal to me. Very raw. I have a lot of emotions about this and it’s something that several men and women deal with every day. I think this post is something I feel I need to write because it weighs on my heart and ties into my fitness journey a bit.

This post can also tie to men as well but I will speak to the ladies out there because that is the only perspective I know.

Ladies, have you ever felt remotely disappointed in someone coming to you and telling you how hot you are or how perfect you are because it seems that that person only sees your skin? I mean let’s be honest, everyone see’s the skin first and decides if that person is attractive to them. That’s a natural human reaction. However, when someone walks up to you and says “Wow, your body is amazing, you’re so hot.” another natural reaction, is a fleeting moment of pride. But for me it turns into sadness. This is because I want to be seen for my heart. I have a big heart that has been let down more times than I can count. I am careful about who I give my heart to in friendships, significant others, and anyone who walks into my life.

I want to be seen for my heart because looks go away. Beauty and fitness levels go down. However, the heart and soul of a person is a beautiful mess that sticks to someone with deeper levels than the skin. The ocean is a good metaphor in this situation. The ocean is deep, with many levels. Creatures live in the different depths of the ocean. This is similar to the human heart and soul. Creatures live in each level of that heart and soul. Although, to see those parts of a person is like pealing back an onion, you have to get through the pain of that stinging in your eyes to be able to cook it into the meal you are making.

The disappointment I feel when men come to me to say such things might be dramatic for some people to hear me speak in this way. But I can tell you it has brought me down in several situations. Part of this is because I have a deep respect for myself and for others. I have worked for every gain in my muscles and I do not ever take that lightly. I can be hard on myself and criticize everything about my body. Which I have found to be very destructive to myself. It can be difficult to hear a man say how hot you are and how much they want to see you body when you know that is not your top asset. You wish the thing they were seeing was the ocean inside of you. And being asked to see your body is a level of disrespect and disregard to how that woman might react to that request.

The amount of pressure in our generation and society tears us as humans apart in several ways. In a relationship, women throw everything at a man who simply doesn’t appreciate the woman in the way they had been created to be appreciated. Now men this goes for you all as well. Men can be seen for their bodies and not their heart as they wish it could be. It’s an all around the world problem. We are all visual creatures. However, the normality of asking to see something so private when you have very little information of people asking, is unfathomable. I think its hard now a days because trust is hard to come by.

In many ways this connects to my fitness journey/love. One reason being that Mei Fitness has dwindled several anxious thoughts while I’m there. The focus I speak about while in the southport location of Mei is very important to me. Those day
s when I’m thrown off guard by a comment of some sorts I am able to go in and zone out the world around me and lift the weights while music blasting. I can cut out the negative thoughts that had clouded my mind and blow into my workout without being distracted. The negative thoughts drip away in the sweat that comes off my brow with each weight I lift. It’s a relief of all things, never a chore.

Ladies you were never made to “fall in line”. You are precious and worth more than life. I tell you my struggles because it’s something I’ve had to deal with and know there are several more out there that might feel the same. I am deeper than skin and I have an ocean inside of me that I know will be seen by someone special.

 

 

YOGA = FRESH START

Flexibility. One of my worst and weakest parts of being in the gym…. However, I’ve been working on changing that. There are several positives for flexibility and stretching in general. Although for me, yoga did the trick.

I love yoga. Its relaxing and surprisingly challenging. I went through a really rough time a while back with a
bunch of personal life problems and started doing yoga. I had worn myself down from being in the gym so much, my immune system was so low to the point where I was sick for about a month with some good days. So this is when I got into yoga. I went to a small juice/yoga shop in Greenwood Indiana where I met an amazing lady who became a confidant and friend. She had told me yoga might be something I should look into, with everything going on and my immune system being so low. At first I hated the idea because I could get my stress out at the gym and I didn’t wanna lose anything that I had gained. Well, my better judgement told me I needed to slow down or else I’d be doing more damage to myself than good if I had kept up the rate I had been going.

I stopped going to the gym for a while and started doing some yoga. The first time I walked out of that studio, I had felt like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders and for once in a while I had been relaxed. I Kept going for a while and learned some new moves. I gained more flexibility and felt better than ever. Once I got back into the gym my body had had enough time to heal and rejuvenate. My body was able to withstand more physical stress and lift heavier weights. My core had gotten much stronger as well! Let me tell y’all, yoga really did the trick.

Now that I’m back in my home gym at Mei Fitness on southport I don’t have as much time for yoga in the studio with an instructor. Thankfully though, this fitness center has a beautiful studio room where I can still practice my moves and find peace in yoga.

I can go long periods with no stretching which I figure, isn’t the best of habits. I’ve committed myself to practice in Mei’s yoga studio each week, at least 3 times along with my workouts. I want to gain more flexibility in my fitness journey. For one I will gain more strength along with less possibility for an injury. My mental and physical performance will improve by miles.

I challenge anyone who has not tried yoga to do so! you won’t regret it at all. I know if I hadn’t tried yoga in the time that I needed it I would be in a different place. I probably wouldn’t have found my motivation or drive to get after my dreams. I am sure I wouldn’t have been able to get back on the horse and ride harder than before. I’d beaten the hell out of that horse and was exhausted. Yoga saved me. To be honest I could be more proud of where I have come. I’ve driven hard and become stronger. Not only physically but mentally as well. I know what I want and I know I’ll get there.

 

Booty Gains

Okay ladies, this ones for y’all. Guys, I guess you can try it too but don’t blame me if ya get some weird looks!(ha) In this workout I really pushed hard and heavy. I have some of my top favorite booty gain workouts in here. These are workouts are what I personally do, so please be careful! This workout is on the longer side. I think it took me an hour and a half to complete.

  • 15-20 minute warmup: I like to walk on an incline at 15% at 3mp
  •  Glute activation exercises (with or without resistance bands). 2×20 squats, 2×20 glute bridges, 20 monster walks (I like to do these before my workout so my glutes are forced to wake up and work)
  • Rope cable pull throughs: 4×15-12-12-12
  • Plate good morning alt. Squats, with a 25lb plate: 4×10
  • Sumo squats with dumbbell: 4×7 regular, 7 half from bottom, 7 half from top
  • Heavy Bar Squats: 4×6,6,5,5
  • Lying leg press: 5×10 with different stances (wide, close, normal, feet set at the top, feet set closer to the bottom)
  • Superset 4×8 leg curls with 4×8(each leg) glute press

I hope y’all enjoy this booty burning workout! I was crazy sore the next day! Have fun!

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Post workout pic. Dang near broke my back.